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I\u2019ve missed free-writing and being part of a writing community. So, I joined an online workshop every other Saturday with Donna Jenson of Time to Tell<\/a>. It\u2019s been so much fun, even when the writing goes deep and into hard cracks and crevices, it doesn\u2019t feel hard, it feels fantastic and wonderful.
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Though I say, often, \u201cWrite heavy. Live light,\u201d it still surprises me how often I feel lighter after heavy writing, especially done in community. For me, free-writing works best.
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I use stream-of-consciousness writing style, learned from Nancy Slonim Aronie, and I don\u2019t edit, spell-check, or stop moving my hand when I do a first draft. Sometimes, I go back later (especially if sharing the writing on a blog or in an essay, like now), to add punctuation and revisions or quotes. If I’m not posting or publishing or sharing though, I don\u2019t even do that.
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This style of writing is about expressing (not impressing), about healing and truth-telling, and connecting with myself and my own writing voice. For me, that’s soul me. If you’ve never tried free-writing, maybe play with the prompt below that was shared with me by Donna and just write about your sacred place. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I’m often surprised as what comes up when I’m prompted, when asked, when we are invited to share. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Writing Prompt 1: \u201cMy Sacred Place\u201d (5 minutes)<\/strong>
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The unconditional openness of the blankness is always available, always welcoming, never presumptuous. The page doesn\u2019t ask for anything specific.
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It\u2019s the opposite of the endless sink piling up over and over with dirty dishes. It\u2019s perpetually possible to start blank, to start fresh, to begin again.
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It\u2019s what I love about writing. I imagine it\u2019s what others get by meditating.
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It\u2019s not just that I get the chance to meet myself on the page, to dive deep or makye even, as Joan Didion describes, get to know what I think and feel only by writing.
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It\u2019s all that but also the place I get to wrestle with ideas, get curious, and ponder on what others say and share. I get to be more open on the page than I am in person.
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In real time, I\u2019m often guarded, positioning. In real time, I\u2019m not always free and easy or anxiety enough to be listening well.
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On the page, I can be more playful, flexible, and fluid.
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On the page I\u2019m not who I was last year, last night, at age 12, or even two decades ago.
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The page doesn\u2019t care if I\u2019m a lifelong vegetarian that ate a steak last night for dinner. It doesn\u2019t care if I\u2019m a lifelong Democrat that opted out of voting because I\u2019m not sure either party can steer the boat. The page doesn\u2019t care if it took me twelve times to break up with the same person I knew I loved and couldn\u2019t live with one met after I met him.
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The page doesn\u2019t care if my marriage is happy, healthy, or full of compromises which depending on the day may seem good or bad, right or wrong, wise or terrified. Or if I\u2019m divorced or dating or will change marital status 3 more times before I die.
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To the page I am as new today as anyone or anything that has ever lived
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To the page, I am not fixed and can be contradictory and human and not a hypocrite.
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I\u2019ve been in arguments of late, in real life, and I don\u2019t know how to stay engaged without joining a side. I don\u2019t want to battle with anyone, or have to pick a team, as though there\u2019s joy in making others wrong.
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Can I open and up share, stay myself, which is sometimes clear and crisp and sometimes unsure?
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I remember the early days of college and how \u201clucky\u201d I was to be the first person in my family to get a BA, and how out of place I felt most of the time with people who were used to having so much so often of most everything.
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Today, at 52, I am often the only person in a room. Though I have a house, a car, a good job and am firmly planted in the middle class, I\u2019m often the only one without a long list of letters after my name. A BA, which for me, is a huge accomplishment, is considered so baseline it\u2019s not even worth mentioning, as though of course, that\u2019s presumed not earned or fought for.
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And usually, there are no people in the room without a college degree, without a high school diploma, who didn\u2019t get to go through grade school, or who don\u2019t share the same first language.
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You seem to fall into the trap of thinking academia isn\u2019t real life, a woman I respect says to me on Twitter.
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You seem to fall into the argument that academia isn\u2019t real.
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It\u2019s not entirely true. But she\u2019s also not wrong.<\/strong> <\/strong>
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I do believe that most people I meet who are academics seem to care most what other academics think, and speak, think, and design studies with only peers in mind – even when, and it seems ironic to me, the area of study is something as equality, equity, or justice. I won\u2019t even get to read their arguments or papers about social justice and their critiques of praise of others because they publish in journals that only other academics can access.
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To me, they seem to not know or remember that the vast majority of people on the planet don\u2019t share the same privilege, access, and it\u2019s not because of intelligence or effort but because of the things they seem to be most concerned about, a lack of money, opportunity, child care, and the uneven distribution of resources, finances, opportunity and even emotional and household labor.
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I remember the first time I felt my lack of class in college, when the kid asked me to participate in his study and I said yes. He needed to know other three things:
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1) My height<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2) My Dad\u2019s height<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3) My Dad\u2019s occupation
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II answered 5 feet 8, not sure, a bum.
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The kid laughed.
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\u201cNo really,\u201d he said.
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\u201cYes, really,\u201d I said or something like that.
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I guessed my father was 5 foot 7 or 8 or 9 or 10. I said I think my father was a mechanic in Vietnam but that he\u2019d been homeless most of my life.
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The kid look puzzled and I felt red-faced and awkward.
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The kid put a note in the margins, like it was a question, like he wasn\u2019t sure if or how to use my data.
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People like me didn\u2019t fit into his presumptions, his theory, or his model. People like my father weren\u2019t supposed to be homeless.
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How does homelessness impact height?
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Did he leave me out? Did he ignore by father because homelessness isn\u2019t a job?
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What is done when answers don\u2019t match the limits of questions or the frames or world views of those asking rather than those being asked?
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That\u2019s the problem I have with academia. It seems to forget people like me or my Dad. It makes little room for what isn\u2019t presupposed. And then, it\u2019s awkward for those of us who have to point out that there was an oversight that didn\u2019t even account for our existence. And often, we have to do this with people who are supposedly experts on inclusion, human rights, and social justice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m reading Peter Elbow\u2019s book, Everyone Can Write: Essays Toward a Hopeful Theory of Writing and Teaching Writing. His words resonate for me.
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\u201cAuthors of books and articles in our field have been spending more energy in recent years on arguing why opposing views are wrong, mistaken, misguided-rather than just arguing why their views are right or helpful.\u201d
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I see that now as though the battling is sport.
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He writes, \u201cas if the only way I can be right is if you are wrong.\u201d
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How often this is true about many topics, not just expressive and formal writing.
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He says, as one of the obstacles he has faced, himself, as a writer, writing teacher, accused of not being academic enough and accused of doing the very things he doesn\u2019t want to do, which is get into non-refutational argument because \u201cThis behavior taps into a pervasive sensitivity to status and the feeling that only one person or team can be dominant; others must be submissive.\u201d
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I\u2019ve seen that happening in the ACEs movement, which to me is still new and forming, as though there must be a dominant narrative at all to champion, refute, join, or resist.
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The line I underlined, starred, highlighted and copied into my journal and hope to live up to from Elbow\u2019s book is this one:
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\u201cThe only view I\u2019m fighting against is the view that my view must be eliminated – not the positive content of other views. My goal is to include more points of view and to avoid either\/or thinking and zero-sum games.\u201d
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It\u2019s hard and important.
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I don\u2019t care if we agree or not, share the same views or not. That\u2019s not required. I want to be in conversation, discussion, even debate but not at war.
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He writes:
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\u201cNo one gets to deny or belittle our experience-our sense of what we see and feel. No one gets to interpret or \u201cexplain\u201d our experiences unless we invite them to do so and we don\u2019t get to do so for others, either.”

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