{"id":4671,"date":"2018-03-12T21:23:36","date_gmt":"2018-03-13T01:23:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/healwritenow.com\/?p=4671"},"modified":"2018-03-13T06:15:02","modified_gmt":"2018-03-13T10:15:02","slug":"survivors-aces-30-days-oprah-day-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/survivors-aces-30-days-oprah-day-1\/","title":{"rendered":"Survivors OWN ACEs: 30 Days of After Oprah (Day 1)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Day 1<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It was #Time&#8217;sUp at the Oscars and #MeToo at the Golden Globes but for the rest of us non-Hollywood people it&#8217; was game day last night on\u00a0 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cbsnews.com\/news\/oprah-winfrey-childhood-trauma-ptsd-60-minutes-report\/\">on 60 Minutes<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re buried by snow, parenting or symptoms of traumatic stress, maybe you don&#8217;t know <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cbsnews.com\/news\/oprah-winfrey-childhood-trauma-ptsd-60-minutes-report\/\">Oprah tackled childhood trauma, toxic stress, ACEs, PTSD <\/a>\u00a0or whatever you call crap that happens in childhood and kicks our asses all the way into adulthood.<\/p>\n<p>Oprah said, \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.cbsnews.com\/news\/the-life-changing-story-oprah-reports-this-week\/\">This story<\/a> was life changing for me. Life changing. People use this work rhetorically. Lifechanging. It\u2019s changed the way I operate.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>If I had a football jersey it would say #ThankFck4Oprah on the front and #ItsAboutFrigginTime on the back. For survivors like myself, it was Super Bowl Sundae with the cherry on top. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cbsnews.com\/news\/oprah-winfrey-treating-childhood-trauma\/\">Go here<\/a> to watch the segment or to read the transcript.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIf I could be a dancing emoji about it I would,\u201d said, \u201cI think it\u2019s that important to our culture.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"910\" height=\"512\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/hcJAWKdawuM?start=47&#038;feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"autoplay; encrypted-media\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Except instead of \u201cyou get a car, you get a car, you get a car,\u201d it\u2019s more like, \u201cYou get an aha. You get an aha. You get an aha.\u201d<\/p>\n<p><strong>Aha 1. Developmental trauma or why my elevator really doesn\u2019t go to the top floor (i.e. it\u2019s not all in our heads)<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>W<img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-4672 alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/PTSD-childhood-300x233.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"233\" srcset=\"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/PTSD-childhood-300x233.jpg 300w, https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/PTSD-childhood.jpg 565w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>hen I was diagnosed with post-traumatic stress in my early twenties. I kept asking my therapist, \u201cfrom childhood?\u201d \u201cfrom my childhood?\u201d because I didn\u2019t even know that was possible.<\/p>\n<p>Bonnie Hahn, a survivor of childhood trauma, who was interviewed on the 60 Minutes segment shared a similar sentiment. \u201cI didn&#8217;t understand it because PTSD was for the veterans coming home from the war. That was what I thought it was. I had no idea.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I too thought trauma stress was reserved for veterans. I thought the rest of us who agonized over the ache of childhood had mental-illness\/issues we were supposed to work on in private while trying to pass for normal. I knew I was different. The world seemed like it was easier for others to navigate. I thought I was too sensitive. I thought I was flunking &#8220;doing&#8221; human. I had no idea the &#8220;baggage&#8221; I was carrying was literally burdensome to my growing brain, body and being.<\/p>\n<p>I thought I wasn\u2019t trying hard enough. That was hard.<\/p>\n<p>Most of us deal with what happens to us in childhood in painful isolation. Without public health stats and stories getting to us, as kids, or even grown-ups, we have no context to what does or doesn\u2019t happen for other kids. We don&#8217;t know what&#8217;s developmental trauma or what&#8217;s just-the-way-it-is. We know our experience.<\/p>\n<p>We don\u2019t know what happens to us, as kids, can protect or threaten us for the rest of our lives and has everything to do with health and well-being.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>About the Survivors Own ACEs series.\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>This is the first of 30 posts about the Oprah segment on 60 Minutes last night. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>There are those of us who have been raised with the ABC&#8217;s of ACEs and are still slogging it out in adult life if we got through baby-toddler-childhood. However, our first-person perspectives are often missing even when about how adults live after childhood trauma. That&#8217;s wrong. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Most of us spend most of our days outside of a clinical hour or conference. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Academic research and medical models often miss the mark. The fail to include the living-while-surviving stuff such as recovering, raising kids, working, managing post-traumatic stress and racism, sexism, poverty (fill-in-the-blank) and paying bills. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>We have, as Sebern Fisher says, &#8220;fear-driven brains&#8221; but don&#8217;t get an assist on parenting, partnering, or personing. We often just do life while afraid. We spend a shit ton of energy regulating our symptoms and trying to get back in our bodies (or not). <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>And we suffer the consequences of ACEs in all sorts of social-emotional-financial ways. And die earlier, on average, when there&#8217;s been too much. So if we own the co<\/em>nsequences of ACEs and developmental trauma &#8211; how about we own this conversation, moment and trauma-informed movement so that maybe it&#8217;s informed by trauma survivors and not edupuked all over us?<\/p>\n<p><em>I&#8217;ve been living, thinking,\u00a0writing, researching and interviewing others about healing and post-traumatic stress for three decades. Add in childhood, and my work spans a half-century. I certify myself as a subject matter expert on trauma-informed? I can speak about life and healing informed by trauma.\u00a0 I&#8217;m not alone. There are lots of us. But for GRRRR sake, it&#8217;s often pretty lonely. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>It&#8217;s going to take survivors, parents,\u00a0and teachers to move trauma-informed change in day to day life. And out of classrooms, boardrooms and therapy sessions. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Many are thrilled that Oprah said trauma, said ACEs, and &#8220;trauma-informed&#8221; last night. And it&#8217;s nice that the conversation got mainstreamed in such a major way. But that&#8217;s not what delights me most. It&#8217;s not just the topic but who is talking and how because language matters and so does experience. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>I&#8217;m delighted the world gets the shift from &#8220;What&#8217;s wrong with you?&#8221; to &#8220;What happened to you?&#8221; but I&#8217;m also clear that survivors have questions for one another and others.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, it&#8217;s not the questions that need to change but the one who is doing the asking. Asking is good but don&#8217;t frame all interactions and call that a relationship. Preview the agenda and ask and then allow for feedback. Maybe, let&#8217;s let those with the most skin in the game lead the conversation. Maybe, don&#8217;t just invite us in from time to time but insist on our inclusion at the strategy, policy and implementation level.<\/p>\n<p>When that happens it goes in different directions.\u00a0Cue Oprah. Oprah, who isn&#8217;t relegated to the &#8220;lived experience&#8221; corner but speaks with and to and as us.<\/p>\n<p>Oprah is a survivor helping us OWN this movement.<\/p>\n<p>#ThankFck4Oprah and #ItsAboutFrigginTime<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Aha 2 Preview: There\u2019s a test for that?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Day 1 It was #Time&#8217;sUp at the Oscars and #MeToo at the Golden Globes but for the rest of us non-Hollywood people it&#8217; was game day last night on\u00a0 on 60 Minutes. 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