Let it go.”<\/em><\/p>\nWhen I was engaged, I had had\u00a0mixed feelings about changing my name. I wasn’t particularly attached to it for a long list of reasons. However, I shared with with my sister, had been\u00a0published under it and had it since birth – so there was that…<\/p>\n
“Let’s create a new name – our own family \u00a0name” I said to my ex, “maybe combining letters from both names.”<\/p>\n
“I’m not that much of a feminist,” he said.<\/p>\n
“What do you mean?” I asked.<\/p>\n
He believed in equality but it just seemed strange. His last name \u00a0had 12 letters and was really harder to spell.<\/p>\n
“So do you just want to take my name?” I said kind of knowing the answer.<\/p>\n
Spoiler: it was a no response.<\/p>\n
Shocked, right?<\/p>\n
This kind of conversation is had, in early love, life and relationship planning and many of us had a version of it.<\/p>\n
So, my husband to be ran the conversation by his best friend who came back with something like, “It’s not like her father was even good to her (he wasn’t). Why is she so attached?”<\/p>\n
I guess if I had to pick a man’s name I should choose between the quality of the men with the last names.<\/p>\n
Oh. Oh. Oh. I hadn’t realized that because I thought my last name was actually MY last name.<\/p>\n
So in that moment I got super attached to my last name. It’s been on my byline my whole damn life right stored right next to my Wonder Woman bracelets \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
So thank Goddess for humor and Amy Schumer and being able to laugh at it all too.<\/p>\n
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I’m not a huge T.V. watcher and so I’ve missed Inside Amy Schumer on Comedy Central until I saw The Last Fuckable Day video on Elephant Journal (which I hope signals a\u00a0feminist Elephant waking up and spraying a trunk full of water all over the place). I have an image of an Elephant with four […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2196,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[39,16],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\n
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