{"id":3061,"date":"2015-05-07T14:16:29","date_gmt":"2015-05-07T18:16:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/healwritenow.com\/?p=3061"},"modified":"2015-05-07T14:16:29","modified_gmt":"2015-05-07T18:16:29","slug":"how-can-anyone-love-me-with-all-of-my-issues","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/how-can-anyone-love-me-with-all-of-my-issues\/","title":{"rendered":"How Can Anyone Love Me with All of My Issues?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>That\u2019s the question I asked.<\/h3>\n<p>It\u2019s the mold that grew on my moist heart and kept me from opening myself up. It\u2019s what I worried about in my early 20s and why I avoided dating.<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t believe I could be <em>me<\/em>, who required a flow chart and three hours to explain my family or origin \u201csituation\u201d and who also had anxiety at times. I couldn\u2019t think of <em>me<\/em> and the words<em> catch, find, desirable<\/em> or <em>chosen<\/em> in the same lifetime, never mind the same sentence.<\/p>\n<p>Honest and alone, or fake with a companion? I didn\u2019t like either choice but they were the only choices I thought existed.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not telling people I have mentally ill, alcoholic\u00a0father, complex relationships with some of my family, difficulty with some sexual positions and am a little sensitive to too much drinking.\u00a0<em>No way.<img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-1943\" src=\"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/10470811_10204103451297327_2740267023081383900_n-225x300.jpg\" alt=\"10470811_10204103451297327_2740267023081383900_n\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/10470811_10204103451297327_2740267023081383900_n-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/10470811_10204103451297327_2740267023081383900_n.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/><\/em><\/p>\n<p>This may not be a surprise but my beliefs weren\u2019t all that great for my relationships.<\/p>\n<p>I wish someone had said to me: \u201cThe question isn\u2019t if anyone can love your damaged self, it\u2019s whether you can accept and love yourself unconditionally.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The truth was I didn\u2019t like, love or believe in me. <a href=\"http:\/\/www.elephantjournal.com\/2015\/05\/how-can-anyone-love-me-with-all-my-issues\/\">Continue reading<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>That\u2019s the question I asked. It\u2019s the mold that grew on my moist heart and kept me from opening myself up. It\u2019s what I worried about in my early 20s and why I avoided dating. I didn\u2019t believe I could be me, who required a flow chart and three hours to explain my family or [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":645,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[52,39,71,40],"tags":[184,186,185],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v19.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>How Can Anyone Love Me with All of My Issues? - Heal Write Now for Trauma Survivors &amp; Adults Abused as Children<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"I wish someone had said to me: \u201cThe question isn\u2019t if anyone can love your damaged self, it\u2019s whether you can accept and love yourself unconditionally.\u201d\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/how-can-anyone-love-me-with-all-of-my-issues\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"How Can Anyone Love Me with All of My Issues? 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