{"id":2725,"date":"2015-01-11T17:06:31","date_gmt":"2015-01-11T22:06:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/healwritenow.com\/?p=2725"},"modified":"2015-01-11T17:06:31","modified_gmt":"2015-01-11T22:06:31","slug":"keeping-fear-passenger-seat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/keeping-fear-passenger-seat\/","title":{"rendered":"Keeping Fear in the Passenger Seat"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Fear<\/p>\n<p>I had to name<br \/>\nover and over again.<\/p>\n<p>Fear<\/p>\n<p>I had to guide<br \/>\ninto the backseat<br \/>\nlike a new puppy, <img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-2686\" src=\"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/IMAG00677-2-259x300.jpg\" alt=\"IMAG00677 (2)\" width=\"259\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/IMAG00677-2-259x300.jpg 259w, https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/IMAG00677-2-886x1024.jpg 886w, https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/01\/IMAG00677-2.jpg 1509w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 259px) 100vw, 259px\" \/><br \/>\nreaching back my back<br \/>\nwhile she barked<br \/>\nor whined.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThere, there\u201d I&#8217;d say,<br \/>\nand try to drive,<br \/>\nmove her body<br \/>\nas she worked her way<br \/>\ninto my lap or under foot<br \/>\nbetween the brakes<br \/>\nand gas.<\/p>\n<p>Screaming \u201cNo\u201d<br \/>\ndoes not work<br \/>\nwithout a \u201cYes\u201d<br \/>\nto move into.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;d have to pull the<br \/>\ncar over to position her letting her come for<br \/>\nthe ride, but only as<br \/>\na passenger.<\/p>\n<p>Fear<\/p>\n<p>I can&#8217;t\u00a0keep from jumping<br \/>\njumping<br \/>\nwithout a bone, toy<br \/>\nor distraction.<\/p>\n<p>My fear is protective, untrained and hyperactive.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve\u00a0had to learn\u00a0to settle in and down<\/p>\n<p>when fear bounds and leaps<\/p>\n<p>and I&#8217;m the target.<\/p>\n<p>Patience, a skill I\u2019ve not yet mastered<\/p>\n<p>we train and train<\/p>\n<p>and practice.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-2541 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/healwritenow.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/IMAG00139-2-300x194.jpg\" alt=\"IMAG00139 (2)\" width=\"300\" height=\"194\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Fear I had to name over and over again. 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