Parenting with ACEs Archives - Heal Write Now for Trauma Survivors & Adults Abused as Children https://healwritenow.com Writing & Inspiration to Heal Trauma Mon, 07 Dec 2020 14:15:48 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.8.5 Permission to be human in a pandemic, please https://healwritenow.com/permission-to-be-human-in-a-pandemic-please/ https://healwritenow.com/permission-to-be-human-in-a-pandemic-please/#respond Mon, 30 Mar 2020 12:41:03 +0000 https://healwritenow.com/?p=5046 I have a single mom friend who is caring for a baby, a 16-year old, and working full-time. Her name is Heidi. This is the same friend, with an ACE score of 10, written about here a few years ago. This is what she posted on Facebook (and gave me permission to share) the day after Governor […]

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]]> https://healwritenow.com/permission-to-be-human-in-a-pandemic-please/feed/ 0 Survivor-Led or Survivor Porn? https://healwritenow.com/survivor-led-or-survivor-porn/ https://healwritenow.com/survivor-led-or-survivor-porn/#respond Thu, 18 Jul 2019 14:59:28 +0000 https://healwritenow.com/?p=4973 I was debriefing with my friend (Robin Cogan, aka the relentless school nurse) about the first-ever hearing on childhood trauma last week by the Committee on Oversight and Reform (viewable here). Robin mentioned how powerful the survivor testimony was, written about here by Elizabeth Prewitt, and I wanted to celebrate and cheer. But I kept […]

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]]> https://healwritenow.com/survivor-led-or-survivor-porn/feed/ 0 Parenting after ACEs: Small Changes & Huge Differences https://healwritenow.com/how-to-human-differently-small-changes-huge-differences/ https://healwritenow.com/how-to-human-differently-small-changes-huge-differences/#comments Sat, 29 Jun 2019 05:03:39 +0000 https://healwritenow.com/?p=4963 (Part 2 & Part 1) I didn’t know how well a cry could be soothed, warmed, tended. I didn’t know how satisfying it would feel to cuddle, coddle, and cradle my baby girl. She was so tiny, only 10 pounds though ten months, because of living in an orphanage without enough food or love. I […]

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]]> https://healwritenow.com/how-to-human-differently-small-changes-huge-differences/feed/ 11 Fireworks of Fear & Fury: Prying the Stories Out of Silence (part 2) https://healwritenow.com/fireworks-of-fear-fury-part-2/ https://healwritenow.com/fireworks-of-fear-fury-part-2/#comments Sat, 29 Jun 2019 04:43:12 +0000 https://healwritenow.com/?p=4958 Part 1 was When Safety Isn’t the First Song. The story goes, my father chased my mother with a knife, as she ran with me in her arms. The story goes he was a violent drunk. The story goes he broke the ribs by punching a toddler off the twin bed. The story goes he […]

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]]> https://healwritenow.com/fireworks-of-fear-fury-part-2/feed/ 1 When Safety Isn’t the First Song https://healwritenow.com/when-safety-isnt-the-first-song/ https://healwritenow.com/when-safety-isnt-the-first-song/#comments Sat, 29 Jun 2019 04:33:04 +0000 https://healwritenow.com/?p=4956 How does one learn great self-care well with a self that wasn't well-cared for as a baby, toddler, or kid?

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